Birthmothers

My open adoption story as the birth mom

"Always know that I love you. Adoption does not mean that I gave up. Adoption does not mean you were not loved or not wanted. Adoption means you have more than one family who loves you. Adoption means you will always be in my heart, whatever I may do. Adoption means I wanted the best for you." 
-- Kelsey Stewart in a children's book she wrote entitled The Best for You.

Well, that pretty much sums it up. Not to make the decision sound simple, because it certainly is not. Its just that when God has a plan and you let him take over, things just sort of fall into place. Yes, this is by far the most life changing decision and process I have made, (again not trying to simplify things), but honestly this open adoption is such a blessing and clearly a gift from above. And it is not a difficult thing to explain to a child. At least, it does not have to be. The thing about our open adoption, is that my daughter will always know I am her birth mom. But she will no doubt have an unbreakable strong bond with her adoptive parents, too. Its a beautiful thing really. To be surrounded by parents who loved you enough to do what is best for you, and also parents who love you enough to take you in as their own. She may not fully understand the level or sacrifice and tears that were shed throughout the process, but that's okay. Someday she will. She will get the jest of it, like in this children's book. No need to make it more confusing or complicated then it needs to be.

Adoption is love, sacrifice, selflessness, hope, faith, and joy. Adoption does not make a birth mother any less of a mother or a woman, it makes her more of one. It proves she is one. Because only a parent fully understands the love you have for your child, and the selflessness it takes to make the bold, yet best decision for them.

Helpful Links
I'm Pregnant A site that offers information on adoption and the options that a birth mother has. It is a great link to find out information regarding open adoption as well.

Big Tough Girl This is a great blog offering support to birth mothers.